What Is Your Next Right Step?
"And then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than it took to blossom."
— Anais Nin
I recently took a few days off and spent some time in Michigan. I grew up in Michigan and it is a very special place for me. I try to get back to visit at least every summer.
One morning I sat in meditation on the back patio of the house. The house was surrounded by a forest of trees surrounding me. The fresh air was peaceful and comforting. I had a lot on my mind and it was nice to get away for a few days. I was coming up on my birthday in a few days and I always get very quiet and reflective about my life around this time. I usually look back over the past year and reflect on what has unfolded and, well, what hasn’t. And a lot has changed in the last year. I expanded the studio, launched a new website and hired a full-time manager. I have focused more of my time on kOMpose Yoga and spent less time practicing law. My kids are growing up way too fast. My oldest son Max will be a freshman at IU in a few weeks. Jack will be a senior in high school this fall and Harry transitioned to a new school for 8th grade.
Transitions are difficult. The last few years have been challenging for me. While I haven’t fully left the life that I previously led for so many years I am deep in the process of building a new life and a new business. And there a lot of missing pieces in my life puzzle right now. Which scares me. A lot. And when I get scared I try to take control of the situation and “make things” happen. However, what I have learned the (very) hard way, is that by pushing, manipulating, controlling, and trying to making things happen, things will likely blow up in my face. Spectacularly in fact. So instead, I have been trying to let go of my attachments to a particular outcome and surrender to the Universe’s plan. Well, it always sounds a lot easier than it really is!
I decided that if I was really going to let go this time that I needed to reconnect to my spiritual practice. With everything going on in my life, I had fallen off the wagon with my daily routine. Lately my yoga and meditation practice consisted of preparing for classes rather than immersing myself in a self-care ritual. I just didn’t have the energy or desire to step on the yoga mat or take care of myself. I finally realized that I couldn’t do this on my own anymore. I needed some help. I went back to the basics.
A key part of my spiritual practice is to study, process, and learn lessons from my teachers and mentors. I went back to the notes and teachings of my friend and spiritual teacher, Gabby Bernstein. One of Gabby’s teachings really resonated with me. She teaches that in order to manifest your intentions and desires into reality you must focus your energy on taking spiritually aligned action. In her words, “spiritually aligned action” is ____. It finally hit me. I needed to ask for help! I couldn’t do this on my own. I needed to ask the Universe to show me “my next right step” in my life journey.
As I sat in my meditation and prayer that day in Michigan, I asked the Universe to show me a sign that I was on the right path. I am a huge believer in signs from the Universe. A Course in Miracles teaches us that we are always receiving signs from the Universe, we just have to be open to receive them. A few moments later I looked up and saw a butterfly floating around in the trees next to me. I was mesmerized by this beautiful creature. My gut told me that was a sign and I did a little research on the butterfly.
The butterfly is the embodiment of spiritual growth and transcendence perhaps more than any other life form on earth because of the transformation from a caterpillar to butterfly. The butterfly demonstrates to us that we each have a choice to transcend our current circumstances, and it is a symbol of our power to choose our way of being, to choose our path, to choose our destiny.
The butterfly’s journey of transformation teaches us that in order to grow and transform our lives we must go deep within our “cocoon” and let go of fears, limiting beliefs, and old wounds. While in the “cocoon,” we experience deep surrender and freedom from what has held us back so that we can see new possibilities, new ways of being and, ultimately, feeling the rush of being completely set free to fly with our beautiful wings. This is a message of showing us what is possible in our own lives and that we can make the impossible a reality.
The butterfly reminds us of the magic of believing. It helped me to understand that my struggle to define my life’s purpose was giving me the strength and courage to break out of my self-imposed cocoon and to start spreading my wings. My next right step was to let go of my death grip on my vision for the future and allow the Universe to float me (and my newly formed wings) in the direction of my dreams and beyond. All I had to do was ask for help. The Universe always says yes!
What is your next right step? Do you want to transform your life from a caterpillar to a butterfly but are not sure where to start? I can help. I get how scary it can be to make a change in your life. I started my coaching practice because I wanted to help others to create an inspired and empowered life. You don’t have to do it on your own either. I can help you move past your fears and limiting beliefs to achieve your goals. Together we can create a program customized for your specific needs. I will be there to support you and hold you accountable in a kind and authentic way. If you are curious about coaching or have decided to make a change in your life and need help doing it, I would be happy to speak with you about my process.