What's Your Story?


I had the amazing opportunity to speak at the February meeting of Linking IndyWomen last week. The title of my speech was “Be. Do. Have. How to Do Less and Be More of the Person You Want to Be”. Pretty ambitious topic, huh? Yeah, it sounded really good at the time I made it up. But when I sat down and starting work on the talking points, I found myself at a loss. Who am I to be giving advice to these women? I am still trying to figure things out myself!! I stepped away from my computer for a couple of days and let the ideas marinate in my mind. I didn’t DO anything. I went about my daily routine and allowed thoughts to come in. I would jot things down here and there. But I was really focused on BEING myself and creating the “feelings” that I wanted to deliver in the talk. I finally felt ready to sit down and write the outline for my talk. And my story just started flowing out. It was the story about the darkest times of my life and how I came to find the light. I have been working on this transformational story since I attended Gabby Bernstein’s training almost 2 years ago. But for some reason, until now the words would not come out. But the time had come. I knew that this speaking opportunity was presented to me for a reason and I was ready to share my story.

On the morning of the event, I was surprisingly calm. The room was packed and there was a buzz in the air. I was introduced to the group and I looked around the room and took a deep breath. As I started to speak, the words just flowed from me in a way that I have never experienced before. I shared the different experiences I have had in my life- from the lows of battling cancer and going through a bitter divorce to the highs of fulfilling my dream of opening a yoga studio- and the important lessons that I have learned that have changed my life for the better. What I have come to learn is that the darkest of times can provide some of the best opportunities for light, to learn and to grow and change our lives for the better. Before I went on my journey, I never truly believed that transformation or happiness was possible for me. I played the victim. Big time. But what I shared with the wonderful women at Linking Indy Women was that I found transformation and happiness possible for me and the result has been a much more peaceful, purposeful and happier life than I ever could have imagined. After my talk, one of the participants walked up to me and said “I could have told that same story”. And it is so true. We all have our own personal stories of heartbreak and triumph it is just the people, places and events that are different.

But it a story. It doesn’t define who you are. You get to make that choice. You are the author of your own story, how do you want your story to end? A huge thank you to Linking Indy Women for allowing me to share my story with your members. The moment was an important step in my journey to finding my authentic voice. It means more that you know.